The Dawning of a New Day

Today I’m going to talk about hurt…

I haven’t updated this blog in a while, because the heart has been heavy. There are little hurts, the type that can be likened to a stubbed toe, painful in the moment, but soon forgotten. And then there are crushed ribs… the sort of pain felt when someone passes on, or when the cruelty of the world cannot be made sense of in our sensitive, empathic consciences, or the pain of disregard and maltreatment, etc..

It’s these heavy hurts that weigh us down because the wounds don’t tend to heal overnight.

I will say things that might not make you feel better if you’ve recently felt like someone was skipping rope upon your broken ribs as you lay sprawled on the ground, but it will make picking yourself up and taking one step in front of another something conceivable.

Healing takes time. Sure, the gurus in India and the new age aficionados may try to convince us that the healing of mental, emotional, and physical pains can occur in this instant (and maybe it is possible…). But, listen, for ordinary people there are no shortcuts to healing. We go through what we go through in life including the painful stuff for legitimate reasons. We need to go through the process of healing. That whole journey is part of why we are here. And, in our time-space reality through which we experience life, that takes time.

The time it takes to heal is not necessarily bad, nor should be considered wasted parts of our lives in which we could have otherwise been doing something more fun, more productive, or living what we conceive to be a perfect life… We need to redefine a perfect life. A perfect life isn’t a life free of pain, hurt, stumbles along the way, obstacles, etc.. A perfect life is a broken one in which we can recognize that even if we cannot yet see it, there is a gift and an impetus to grow in every experience we go through both good and bad.

All the time it takes us to heal could quite likely be the most productive, useful time in our lives to break out of our current molds and rise beyond the paradigms that guide our lives to become grander, more authentic versions of ourselves.

You might be thinking what’s the point of all this growing if it’s going to come with such hefty doses of pain? Growth does not make life easy. It allows us to experience a fuller, richer experience of life.

You see, there’s a caveat here. Not all people are willing to suffer well. To suffer well, to grow, we need to recognize that we can choose to go down the path of discovering the gift suffering has to offer. We can choose to heal. You can choose to heal. Or the same pain will remain or return.

The best way to look at suffering is with gratitude, that it is happening in order to teach us some very important lesson. It is useless to want suffering to go away. It is impermanent, it will go away anyway, but if we don’t learn the lesson that it is trying to teach us, it will come back in exactly the same manner. -Ayya Khema, Buddhist teacher

It may take time and you may find yourself wallowing in the gutters with a heart full of depression. But, don’t berate yourself for the time it takes for you to follow your path. After all, you may be crawling on gravel and broken glass at first. But, eventually you will be able to pick yourself up (perhaps with some assistance and that’s okay!) to stand on your own two feet, and take your first step forward (possibly with atrophied legs, it will be tough, but you can regain your strength!). And soon you will be walking and the path will smooth out and perhaps… perhaps after the darkest hours of your life, you will begin to see the light of dawn.

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I’m not saying you’ll be out in the clear. Clouds may form above, or you may stumble. But, that moment of seeing the light will be (and I guarantee this) one of the sweeter breaths of fresh air you will ever take. You will not be the same person after travelling that rugged road.

There is no prescription to healing. No path twists and turns in quite the same way. This is your journey and yours alone. This is about you going within and reacquainting yourself with your essence– with who you are. It’s about removing the debris from the tragedy and seeing yourself anew in this world. And yes, it changes your life.

Sorrow prepares you for joy. It violently sweeps everything out of your house, so that new joy can find space to enter. It shakes the yellow leaves from the bough of your heart, so that fresh, green leaves can grow in their place. It pulls up the rotten roots, so that new roots hidden beneath have room to grow. Whatever sorrow shakes from your heart, far better things will take their place.  -Rumi

This is the dawning of a new day and that new day will be one you’ve never experienced in all your life and never could have experienced if you’d never suffered and gone down the path of healing.

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The Fool’s Journey

When I dare to be powerful, I use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid.

—Goethe

I had a bit of an epiphany today in realizing that the only thing that holds me back in life is my fear. Fear of failing, fear of not being able to make ends meet in life, fear of looking ridiculous as I stumble over my own feet, etc.. I’m sure I’m not the only one out there that has felt an internal wall prop up at the thought of pursuing my dreams to the fullest when FEAR sets in.

The epiphany came about with this question, “What would I do if I had nothing to fear and nothing holding me back?” The first thing that came to mind was that rather than remaining stagnant as I have been, I’d set forth and do something. What that would be exactly at this point, I don’t know, but I know that I’d take risks that I’d normally be too afraid to take.

And this is the journey of the Fool. The Fool is an incredibly powerful archetype of the tarot that reminds us that the essence of Life springs forth through action; action that is spontaneous and thus contains the vibrant seed of Life. The Fool reminds us that in order to move forward and bring our gift to the world, to journey forth in this adventure, we must have faith that we have wings to fly. A poem by Rumi shares the message of the Fool so beautifully:

You were born with potential.

You were born with goodness and trust.

You were born with ideals and dreams.

You were born with greatness.

You were born with wings.

You are not meant for crawling, so don’t.

You have wings. Learn to use them and fly!

Furthermore, the Fool is not afraid of who he is or how others perceive him. He is true to himself and above all true to his inner journey. He is also not afraid of falling and hurting himself. The Fool might appear foolish to the burdened adult mind, but know that the Fool is an important guide and bears the wisdom of innocence. It is innocence that is at the core of creation, movement and the fulfillment of dreams and goals.

“I can honestly say that probably 95% of the things I was afraid of, it turned out I had no reason to be. So drop fear by the wayside. Just… let it go. Then make way for a surprising tomorrow.” — Neale Donald Walsch

We are born of Spirit full of everything we need to journey forth in the direction of our dreams. 

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